Happiness:-

What constitutes happiness? I've been asking myself the same question, over and over again as I grow up, coming up with a different definition each time.

When I was in primary school, happiness meant....not having to memorise my multiplication tables and being envious of the kid who had the wide box of Faber Castell colour pencils with the most range of colours. ( I still wanna buy a box of them, just to fufill my childhood fantasy.hiakhiak) It meant being able to watch TV for long periods and having no homework to do.

Defining happiness now: I want to be empowered to do whatever makes me and the people around me happy. Being able to say 'No' when I mean it. Having lots of money, and preferably a sugar daddy (Regardless of looks,age, whatever).

....okay I was kidding on the last point. I hate having people pay for my stuff, come on.


Just recently I've had a slight argument with my dad over my ex tutor whom we were discussing. My dad was asking me if she was still giving tuition until now, and I told him "yeah,she is. Still doing it full time", to which my dad went " Tsk tsk. Look at her. She has an NUS/NTU degree in engineering, could have stuck to her career and be earning lots by now. Still doing private tuition and not married now, she's wasting her degree. So you see, ideals don't always work out."

I was. fuming. mad at this point. I fucking. HATE. people who judge. It's like, you don't know the person enough, so don't decide what she likes, or don't like, and worse,decide what's good for him/her.

My ex tutor tutored me for a few years, switched jobs to being a teacher in a secondary school, then to banking, then back to private tutoring until now (if I don't remember wrongly).
Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with private tutoring. You have an income stream, semi-flexi hours,blahblah.

I couldn't take my dad's statements lying down, to which i retorted: "She's happy giving private tuition now what, and she can travel whenever she wants, no family to tie her down. There's nothing wrong with that"

And my dad said "Yeah, she's happy now. But how about when she grows old and retires next time? Who's going to take care of her? Savings-wise,does she have enough? Will she still be happy by then?"


I told him " Ya, but it's her life what. She can do what she chooses to. Her degree didn't go to waste as well, and not all people need lots of taking care of when they're old. If we all keep worrying about retirement and old age , might as well prepare to die tomorrow right?"


I knowww I don't even make any sense in the above, but I was too mad to have any logical argument.

Good grief. I get mad just thinking about it again.  *mock faint

Life is really too short to spend all of it worrying about the FUTURE. Must learn to arrange priorities so that there's a balance between being reckless and having a backup at the same time. No?

Labels: happiness, judgement