What Say You?
Attraction of deprivation- when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents. Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.
βThe child in us believes that if the original perpetrators β or their current replacements β finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness. Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.β
-A quote from Psychology Today.
I've heard people say daughters look for a piece of their fathers in prospective partners, and vice versa for sons. I don't know how true that is, but that is definitely not the case for me.
In fact, I look for the exact opposite of my dad in guys. Don't get me wrong, my childhood wasn't THAT messed up, but there're certainly lots of things in my dad that I disagree on and have to live with because , well, he's my dad. His parenting techniques... a lot that I don't agree with.
It's the 3rd of June. the third day of the sixth month of 2013... 22 days to my 22nd birthday.
I'm slightly high from the instant noodles I had for lunch. Must be because I put the whole packet of seasoning powder into my noodles. Heehee.
Listening to 'Green Light' now. groovin, movin, uhmmhmm. Summer's here. Time to go and attempt a suntan.
Labels: lazy afternoon, Monday, muses