Wednesday, June 05, 2013
The notion of paid sex
I wrote the following in my diary because I'd deemed these thoughts too intimate for public reading. Then I changed my mind.
Here goes:-
Dear Diary,
Today a certain conversation has made me almost lose faith in mankind.
Why is paid sex only a norm for the males? Why is it less heard of among the females? Does all this stem from societal expectations and stereotypes?
Isn't paid sex more worth it than a one night stand, since money is involved in the former, and none in the latter? (I'm just more money-faced okay)
Think of it this way: When we see a scantily clad woman at the bar,arm hooked onto another man, leaving the place together , we automatically assume on first instinct that it is the man paying ( in one form or another) to have sex with her.
Why can't it be the other way round ?(i.e. the woman paying the man) Why does our society function this way?
How can anyone who is about to settle down, still want to look for a form of paid sex? Settling down vs paid sex; what are the tradeoffs? ( I realise that until here, this entry is filled with Whys and Hows ; questions waiting for answers.)
I read somewhere in an article (if I don't remember wrongly) about having better rights of sex workers so that they don't get mistreated by other members of society. If anything happened to them, they wouldn't feel as if going to the police wouldn't help their situation.
But why do we let them continue with their trade in the first place? Is this the only thing they can do? How should we see this whole thing? In a positive or negative light?
At this point lots of thoughts are swirling around in my head. I don't know, you tell me.
ME.
Go ahead, spill